Last class in one of my master program’s classes, my professor got real with us for one moment. The realest any of my professors had ever been. We were discussing what it was like being a principal of a high school, and how there will be a lot of situations we got through as a admin that many people will not go through in their life time. She then said that, “It gets really lonely at the top,” She went further into it that she has never felt so alone when she had her own school and teachers even, going against her because of a troubled student that wanted to slander everyone in her graduation speech. My professor had people that she thought she trusted and had her back, pull a “Caesar” on her.
It made me think about myself right now as a teacher, who is in charge of so many things that sometimes, I don’t even know what is, “up.” I am constantly working and trying to make sure everything is right and keep up with all my jobs (that is inside my one job). I have experienced this sense of loneliness before. Just today even, I was getting a every late email out to who I thought knew about this meeting that needed to take place today and I was emailed back quickly with frustration. But I played it off, and said I was sorry (I really thought they knew about the meeting already). I never realized how easy it was for someone to turn on someone, so quickly like that until I became a teacher (high schoolers can be fun). But any-who, I did not even slightly get upset by the comments, I just went on and tried to deescalate the issue (which I did). I knew they were not trying to come off rude or mean, they were just upset. But they are also my colleague... I am not their boss... but for a moment it sort of felt like that.
I am nervous to think about how it will be when I am a principal... will I have to walk on egg shells? I wont be able to post myself on my own personal (private) facebook, having a drink with friends? What is this world coming to? I wont be able to have some sort of relationship with my staff? How will there be a community if one thing goes wrong and then I am the enemy?
But as she was saying, that she doesn’t have any one to really speak about things that she is experiencing and even her husband sometimes doesn’t want to listen... it was so insane how... I am already dealing with that...
So yes, I agree. It is very lonely at the top and I am not even really there yet.